My Womb Diary - Part II

Its Dad's birthday!!! We celebrate with all my uncles, aunts and my grandparents!!! Doctor takes a look at me and tells mom that your baby needs to put on more weight. My Momma quietly tells me to stop jumping around and relax... But i am so excited!! Its only going to be a matter of few weeks before I pop.

Treats keep flowing. Love my daily dose of Vanilla Icecream. I swiftly put on weight. But the downside is that there's hardly any space to move around. Cant do my length and breaths anymore. I am floating. I guess my mom has tightened her belly. Its a conspiracy so that I dont roam around. All the food is going to my hips. :) And the weight has forced me into upside down position. Now who lives like this? With his head below and legs above??? But I am super-talented, you remember???

- August 2012

Things are moving fast. Preparations are in full swing for my arrival!! My grandparents have re-arranged Momma's room for my arrival. My dad is on stand-by. Wont be going out of town for business meets. Just when I was about to go to sleep, I over heard Mom instructing Dad what to do if she went into labour. I thought she was already into labour. Otherwise why would she take instructions from Delhi all the time and work long hours??? Maybe they are talking of some different kind of labour. I found it too boring so i dozed off. 

Then one fine evening, when Momma was driving Nani to a cultural program, I felt like peeping out. So I pushed my way out but the umbilical cord entwined around my neck rendered me breathless. I so much wanted to get out. I tell Momma that I cant do it on my own. My Momma tells me to relax... says she will handle it all!! 

I smile and relax... Afterall, thats what Mommas are for! They can handle it all!

Its Ganpati time! But Momma takes ill. She is down with flu. I behave myself. But it only gets worse. Once Momma recovers, my grandparents too take ill.They have to be administered glucose. And then... Dad fell ill.  I help in my own way. I dont trouble Momma. And every once in a while, I knock on the womb walls, so that she knows I am with her!!! Momma smiles and shares this with Dad. Dad too is smiling now. They both respond and tap on the belly to say Hi!!! And in all this, Daddy got well. I have magical powers to heal, you see!! 

Its 23rd September. I was due today. But Momma is relaxed. In no hurry for my arrival. Instead she proposes to go for Barfi!!! So I go on my last outing inside her. I must say, I loved the Choco-almond cone and Ranbir Kapoor....

On 24th September, Mom and Dad visit Dr Banker! He is not too keen to wait. Says lets get the little one out. So everyone goes into frenzy. Both grandmas' start looking for auspicious time. Mom is asked not to have any food. From that moment on, she only thinks about food. To make matters worse, Dad orders Dominoes for everyone. Chintan kaka, Vrushti Kaki, Aara, Arjun Kaka arrive at hospital. Everyone is super excited!! I hear my Devam Mama too is rushing to Ahmedabad. All this activity tires me out. I decide to take a nap as I will be finally facing the world in some time. 

And before I know it... My arrival is announced. At 4.34, I finally meet my Momma. She's beautiful. Just as i imagined. She has the broadest smile on her face. Just as i imagined. I hold her fingers. The same ones she said hi!! and caressed me with. She holds me tight in her arms as everyone arrives to take a look at me. Dad is speechless... almost with tears in his eyes!!! Afterall, I am his duplicate. The same features, same traits and in love with the same girl. We both thank Momma. :) 

And this time, as I go into Daddy's arms, Momma dozes off!!!

- September 2012

Why didnt you tell me?? Part II

Thank you all for reading the blog and sharing some "experiences" with me.... I got some amazing responses for the previous post and some of them have actually committed a crime (in my eyes) for some of the most important things they forgot to share with their partner...

I once asked Amul to meet me at 7am at ATIRA for a morning walk. I conveniently forgot. I just didnt wake up. He went, walked around, returned home, slept off... only to see me.. all apologetic at 9am. :)

And as i have discovered... many around me have committed some amazing blunders in life... All of them requested to remain anonymous...

Some of their confessions... OFF THE RECORD ofcourse..

1) "I forgot to tell my girlfriend that i went to see this cricket match. She thought i was in office all the time. And i was so excited that i completely forgot to tell her or take her along. You can imagine how much explaining i had to do."

2) "I didnt tell my husband that i had joined a diet program.. I wanted to prove that i lost weight naturally without making any efforts. He finally discovered when he saw their leaflet addressed to me. He was upset."

3) "My ex boyfriend started gambling and betting on cricket matches. I never got to know of it till one day i caught him red handed stealing a 50 rupee note from my wallet. I was first taken aback as to why was he borrowing money without telling me. I wouldnt have bothered with a 50 rupee note. But he panicked and even before i asked, he blurted out everything. He couldnt leave gambling. So i left him."

4) "My boyfriend use to watch porn. He somehow never shared this with me. When i came to know... i was very upset."

5) "My wife convinced me into buying a second hand car instead of a brand new car. She said we will save money that way. The next day she went and got herself gold earrings. Without telling me. I was furious. I thought she was selfish."

6) "I forgot to pick up my child from school one day. I was tired and went off to sleep. When i woke up, my child had come home. The Principal dropped him home. I have never revealed this to my husband. He will be angry if he comes to know this."

7) "My boyfriend and i went for this long drive on the bike without telling my parents. We met with an accident and there was no one on the highway to help us. We somehow managed to reach Ahmedabad. It was nice of my parents to not scold me of having a boyfriend and driving off far without their knowledge. All they said was 'Why didnt you tell us?"

8) "Once after the fight, i went on this long drive by myself. Then watched a movie alone. Then had this huge thickshake. Ordered Dominoes. Watched a cricket match. Had good fun. Thought will upset my girlfriend by doing all this. On the other hand, she went on this shopping spree with her friends, then for pedicure, then for dinner and drinks with her friends, winding up at a pub dancing till 1am in the morning. The next day we patched up. Not wanting to hurt each other, none of us revealed what we did the previous day. One fine day, she discovered the single movie ticket from my dashboard. I spilled the beans. Another fine day, her friends returned the money that she had paid for the dinner and drinks. She too had to spill the beans. Both the times, spilling beans led to fights."

9) "Long years back when i was dating my wife.. i was to meet her brother for the first time. I completely forgot about the appointment. My wife and her brother kept waiting for me at a restaurant for 1 hour, before she called to remind me of the appointment. I was however on my way to meet a client in the opposite direction. Not only did i forget that appointment, i fixed up another meeting... only to forget it again. I finally met my brother in law in the third appointment. Its still a family joke."

Hope all of you learnt your lessons from this... :)

Got more??? Hit the comment section... i would love to hear more.

Why didnt you tell me??

Many a times, when two people grow close.. they end up sharing thoughts, dreams and sometimes even day dreams with each other. But while sharing the most intimate of your dreams and fears with each other, i have observed that individuals often forget to share the most obvious things with each other.. things which are so neccesary to share or are very important for the other one to know.

In past, i have made such mistakes. But not with the motive of hiding. But due to sheer lack of misjudgement. "Ohhh... i didnt know it was so important for you to know." I have often used this line, when i unknowingly have not shared my decision, my plan or even thoughts with Amul. And i have suffered. But i have learnt my lessons. Many dont.

Some people forget whats important for your partner to know. Some of them have no clue that something is best left unsaid and something is extremely important to be shared. And over a period of time, i have not only learnt from my experience but also from other people.

I learnt one today. Overheard a co-professional (cant call him colleague because we dont work together but we work in the same field) talking to his wife over the phone.

HE: I am not coming to Rajkot.
Silence.... perhaps his wife was talking.
HE: I didnt get leave and therefore there's no way i can come to pick you up. You please manage.
Silence....
HE: Why do i have to tell you every little thing? If i cant come, i cant come. Whats such a big deal? I have always come to see your parents after Diwali. If i cant come this one time. Whats the big deal?
Silence....
HE: So what if i forgot to tell you? You should understand... And why do i have to inform you about every little thing? You can very well travel by yourself. And its no emergency to see your family right now. Dont make a big deal out of it.
Silence...
HE: Why i forgot???..... I forgot.. so i forgot. I dont report to you. If i wish to convey something i will. If i dont wish to convey something... i wont.

The phone disconnects....

Cribs to the other men around how nowadays women demand account of every minute spent out of home...

Today's lesson: Always tell your partner if you cannot make it somewhere.

I completely sympathize with the wife who was bearing the brunt of her truant husband.

But i think both the sexes need to understand that communication is one of the most important tool in your 'FIX IT ALL' box required in dire straits. When you want a hassle-free, smooth and peaceful relationship, it helps if you SHARE the most basic aspects of your life with your partner. And by sharing i dont mean sharing time together. 'Oh.. we spend whole day together" "We always have dinner together" "We make it a point to spend 15 minutes a day just with each other everyday".

And inspite of spending so much time "together"... how many of you have heard or said these lines to your parnter. "Sorry.. i forgot to tell you." "I didnt know you would like to know." "I thought it wasnt important enough to tell you." "I was thinking of telling you... but then i forgot."

Go by the golden rule guys: "COMMUNICATE".

• Never forget to say if you cant make it.
• Never forget to mention that you met your old friend, friend, ex-colleague, new friend.
• Never forget an appointment. (ITS BLASPHEMOUS)
• If you are generally a forgetful person, write down what needs to be communicated in your mobile phone. In Notes section, in drafts... wherever possible. Set a reminder to it.
• If you have planned something in your life... even if its shopping or meeting relatives... let your partner know. You never know when it becomes a big issue.
• If you planned something more significant - like changing jobs, buying new vehicle, investing in FDs, gifting holidays to parents or just simply spending huge amount, let your partner know.
• If you have already taken the plunge... like quit your job in a jiffy, fought with your in-laws, smashed the car, broken your leg, squandered money or just simply have cheated... still let your partner know immediately... as soon as possible.

And they always say.. its not the big things but always the small things that cause big issues...

For girls...

• Dont forget to mention if you have met your old boyfriend or an old school friend. Especially if its a boy.


• Dont forget to mention if you have had a haircut. Especially an expensive one.


• Dont forget to say that you have had panipuri in the evening and therefore are not hungry anymore. Especially if he's planning to take you out for dinner at a really nice place.


• Dont forget to mention if you have used up all your salary in shopping and its only 10th day of the month. Especially if you have a planned holiday in the last week of the same month.


• Dont forget to convey or pass on the message of your parents to your partner. That will be a double whammy... both the sides will fume at you, later if not sooner.

For Boys...

• Dont forget to tell your girl if the movie that you are planning to watch is an action thriller. Especially if it does not have a good looking hero.


• Dont forget to tell your girl if she's looking pretty. Especially if she's had a bad day.


• Dont forget to convey your mom's message to your girl. Even is its a compliment.


• Dont forget to tell your girlfriend if dont plan to /wish to go along with her to her friend's place or relatives' place.


• Never forget to turn up on time. Even if she makes you wait. And especially if she's coming along with you for your friend's gathering.


• Never forget to tell her who called? Say it right after you put down the phone. Its simple. Just say, "Darling, he/she called."


• Never forget the golden rule. A good guy never recalls/re-enacts/reminds the most embarassing moments of his girl's life. She didnt share it with you to make it an anecdote.

So its quite simple... And yeah... when something like this reminds you of a personal experience or an incident of someone else's life... DONT FORGET TO SHARE IT WITH ME.

I will post the comments (keeping the names anonymous) in my next blog.